So I asked the deck, “How have we managed not only to love each other, but to continue to like each other all these years?”. Here was my answer; the 4 of Swords, the 2 of Pentacles reversed, and the 5 of Swords reversed. At first glance I was a bit disappointed. What, no major life lessons here? No Lovers, no Temperance, no Magician?
And then the life messages crystalized, and became clear. First I pulled the 4 of Swords. That would indicate time to rest, to regroup, restore energy. Isn’t that exactly what marriage needs from time to time? Sometimes one of you is all fired about something, or exhausted from something troubling you at work, or is experiencing ill health. That’s when the other says you go rest and I’ll carry the weight for awhile for us both.
Then the 2 of Pentacles Rx (reversed). Juggling so many responsibilities – it’s never-ending. When it’s upside-down, surely something falls down, something important is missed. Whenever this had occurred for one of us, the other was always there to toss a pentacle back and keep the juggler performing.
5 of Swords Rx (reversed). Upright, you see that someone has gotten the better of someone else. One walks away feeling victorious, the other, defeated. As a couple we have tried our best to not gloat or feel superior, or get the better of the other, or said “I told you so” (ok, he’s been much better about this than I.)
So there it is – some basic advice that helps relationship sustainability between two individuals, whether married or not.
Here’s to the next 30!